When I went to Shanghai a few weeks ago, I met up with one of my dear friends, who also happens to be a TCK. (a.k.a. awesome) We spent hours (snap)chatting away to fill in the 6-month void we had of not seeing each other.
Of course, what is girl talk without the juicy topic of “dating”? My friend brought up an interesting question that really piqued my mind.
“Would you date someone who’s not a TCK?”
Now I actually thought hard about this. It’s definitely easier to date someone with a similar background who understands your values and sees the world the way you see it. But does that mean I won’t date someone because they lack the qualities formerly mentioned? Nope.
My ex-boyfriend was also a TCK whom I went to high school with in Shanghai. While our worldly viewpoint of the world and our love for exploring was what kindled the fire in our relationship in the first place, it was our other differing values that extinguished the fire and ended the relationship.
My current boyfriend is a non-TCK. He was born and raised in his home country and has never lived anywhere else. We both have an undying passion for music, and his unconditional love and care is why I am naturally drawn to him. Sure, there are times I disagree with his comments or viewpoints towards other cultures, but they have never been a deal-breaker. As a matter of fact, I see this as an opportunity to show him the world I see and have experienced (in the least patronizing way, of course).
So what do you think? Would you date a non-TCK?